Work-life balance isn't what you're actually looking for
- 11 minutes ago
- 2 min read
As a coach, I am trained to listen to what someone is saying and also what they are not saying.
When work-life balance comes up — and it comes up often — what I hear is a quiet current of frustration and overwhelm. Like the demands of life are happening to them rather than being shaped by them. Like the schedule is in charge and they are not.
Work-life balance is a phrase we reach for when something feels out of control, and we want it back. And generally it means a few different things depending on the person saying it.
Sometimes it means I am over capacity. The excessive hours I am spending are leaving me depleted, and there is no time (or energy) left for the things that restore me.
Ask yourself: When was the last time I did something purely because it filled me back up?
Sometimes it means there is an emotion running underneath the surface. Many of us have learned to intellectualize what we feel rather than actually feel it. When someone says they want better balance, they are often saying: I want to feel different than I feel right now. And they believe that by fixing the calendar they can fix the emotion, but it's only a band-aid to something that lives much deeper than a schedule.
Ask yourself: Is there an emotion I have been avoiding or trying to outrun by reorganizing my calendar or staying busy?
Sometimes it means there is a longing for a stable equilibrium where everything stays in its right proportion. That longing is human. And it is also not how life works. Nature ebbs and flows. Our lives move in seasons. The most useful thing is not to chase stillness — it is to understand yourself well enough to know what pulls you out of balance and what brings you back.
Ask yourself: Could I name specifically — not generally — what is draining me most right now? And what is one thing I can do to feel more in balance?
If one of these questions landed somewhere real for you, that is worth paying attention to. A Clarity Session is a good place to start that conversation.
Always in your corner,
Halle
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